Day 4 and 5

Day four was to contact your spouse sometime throughout the day with no agenda and see how they are doing and if there was anything you could do for them

Day 5 -today. As a spouse we are not to be rude and inconsiderate. There are things that we can do that irritate our spouses. This includes everything from pouting to the way the dishes are loaded. In every marriage there are things that irritate both people. Today we are to ask politely what three things that make our spouse uncomfortable or irritated at and then we are to work on these. 

I understand this, but how does one ask this?? Hmmm